The Basics

Touch [see Images in the Book]

The one – first – true basic method that any newborn baby has to communicate with its Mother (or Father), is that of the Universal Language – “Touch“, next to that of facial gesturing that may consist of a simple smile, or grimace. Through physical touch, however, the engaging contact – Feel – allows several key responses to occur within that which is touched, and the one who has primarily reached out and made a connection; in many ways, the physical appearance of knowing is now antagonized, and it will be from this moment on that the two combined will have a true awareness of one another’s presence. Once ‘Touched’ the receptors of the brain will depict, organize and process the several ‘Major’ and ‘Minor’ antagonists:

• Contour/Form
• Warmth/Cold
• Smooth/Rough
• Hard/Soft
• Durable/Fragile
• Wet/Dry
• Organic/Mineral

The result of ‘Connection’ causes what is known as ‘Stimulation’, though some may refer to ‘Stimulation’ as that of a ‘Sexual Act’, it is fair and exact to say that it is not always the case; conclusive evidence shows that a singular “Touch” is displayed by both a ‘Heightened Emotional Response’, and that of a ‘Physical Response’, whereas the physical connection that is made by two people; namely a Mother and Child – Father and Child, in this case, the receptors of the skin, nervous system and mental transceivers create the stimulated acceptance of ‘Touch’ to ‘Felt’.

Fast-forwarding this same ‘Action’ to two grown adults, keeping in mind the same fundamental technique which is demonstrated for a Mother and Child, we will experience something more physically present than emotional; the touch of a woman’s skin, whether this is of the hand, arms, waist, legs or be it the toes, it will always be different. Physical Contact is today considered one of the most ‘Aware’ acts of a Human Being, while our younger counterparts and many women see it as an everyday ‘Acceptance’. The greatest example of this is by watching two women in the state of ‘Welcoming’, ‘Greeting’ or saying ‘Goodbye’ to one another. They will hug, and/or they will hug and kiss one another in a friendly manner, but not in any way ‘Passionately’ – unless they are ‘Involved’ that is. As for ‘Males’ – or be it ‘Men’, they will shake hands to ‘Welcome’ or to bid one another ‘Farewell’. It is rarely seen for two men to embrace and kiss (Fondly) either in a welcoming, or parting scenario and that is why the acceptable embrace of the ‘Female’ is interesting for the fact that it can mean no other deeper thought-provoking instance than that of a ‘Feminine Trait’ which is as harmless as a ‘Mother and Child’s Maternal Relationship Bond.’

Later, we will look at how this simplistic exchange of innocence can transform the Human Being from ‘Fond’, to that of a more ‘Intimate’ experience, and, how through the actual awareness of the innocent act women champion over men in expressing their femininity better.

Development

Personal references, sometimes leading to embarrassment are often asked of ‘Young Adults’ and ‘Mature Adults’ concerning their youth; when they had their very first kiss when they lost their virginity, and/or both, which in the same respect becomes as easily acceptable between family and best friends, as that of a stranger asking what time it is. From Teenage Youth to that of Adulthood, the development of our attitudes in the context of ‘Sexual References’ becomes far less a problem to talk about, though not everyone feels comfortable discussing details of their most intimate and be it sensitive issues. In the forty years of my own history, through the generations that walk along the ‘Learning Curve of Life’, more and more of the younger generation have adapted to a model class in which to divulge their own experiences and break many of the Taboos which would otherwise lay waste to ‘Inappropriate Information’ as depicted in pre-fifties and sixties cultural classes around the world.

As we are seeing around us on a daily basis, either through the media, newspapers or actual documented facts announced in magazines, men and women of all ages, from all walks of life and, even those instances that would normally shock us, have become more open and a lot more ‘Stand-Upish’ than ‘Stand-Offish’ when it comes to discussing ‘Sex’. Is this because of the way in which the Media and Television expose us to ‘In Your Face’ visual stimulation? Or, is it simply because when the box of ‘Inhibition’ was opened we took the chance to liberate ourselves from those things that should not be silenced or referred to as ‘Sinful’?

As a very naïve child, my journey of sexual awareness was first initiated in Primary School, and so, when moving onto Middle School, the variants never added up. Alas, those small urges and be it those embarrassing moments did collide with my world; the crushes on female teachers, the taking a fancy to the best-looking girl in the class – and the school – but it was found that the attitudes faced during the 1980s were a lot less liberal than they are today. And for that reason alone, it would take more than several thousand hours of research to bring me up to speed on circumstantial knowledge and facts that depict the decadal gaps between the three generations.

The Virgin

Many will laugh at the mere mention of the word ‘Virgin’, while others, often those who are not, will take a second of thought in the terminology that they once held with pride. Statistically, the number of ‘Virgins’ in The Netherlands outweigh the number of ‘Non-Virgins’ here in the UK, while those in Ireland, Spain, and France outnumber the combined figures of both the UK and USA. These figures are based on ‘Research Polls’ conducted by many sources and compiled by real organizations who have flagged their concerns about British Schools failing in providing ‘Sex Education’ for our younger generations. Both ‘Preteen’ and ‘Teen’ magazines have raised the debate for which the Government has responded in a surprisingly negative response, saying that ‘Sex Education Classes’ “Would give the ‘Green Light’ to the child to initiate themselves in sexual activity.”

The old-fashioned terminology for ‘Virgin’ during the 1950s and 1960s was that you were ‘Pure’, ‘Innocent’ or ‘Blessed’, even. And it wasn’t until the 1970’s really, that the fingers were out pointing at various mainstream pleasures as ‘Source Points’ to blame for young women losing their virginities out of wedlock. It was considered ‘Shameful’ for a young, unmarried woman to have allowed such a violation upon her person – this was the case of her parents’ decree and one which resulted in the worst punishment for defying.

In today’s world it is the relaxed attitudes and evolved inner structure of education which has led to the more unrestricted sense and habitual tolerances of parents, who through understanding their very own lives of rearing and reflecting experiences, they arrive at a compromising settlement in which sits upon a very fine line. Exceptions are made for certain Cultures and Beliefs, however, upon the constraint of virtue that is made paramount through many subtle warnings and threats made by those ‘Religious’ cultures, history and the facts which have taught us that in certain regions of the world, death by stoning, and even beheading of a defiled female can behavioural as a punishment.

The fact remains, however, we are all ‘Virgins’ sometime in our lives – assuredly from our first ten to fifteen years – and whether we are aware of it or not, the pride of place in this day and age does not last as long as it did three decades ago. And, it may be because of the continuous waves of ignorance and defiance that brings a person to believe they are more of a man, or woman when they have lost it to the first willing candidate who comes along to take it. Of course, this is all utter bullshit! The self-diminished responsibility and attitude of any person who actually takes this as ‘The Truth’, has not been completely honest with themselves from the offset, never mind the perpetrator who says it.

The Slut/Male Slag

The terminology for ‘The Slut’ and that of ‘The Male Slag’ has become one of the most used labels, more now in the 21^st Century than at any other time in three decades. And though nobody likes to be tainted or dubbed with an impolite name or title, it is a sad fact that there are some who are proud to be labelled in such a way because of their rebellious and outlandish attitudes. Personally, the terms are of metaphorical face value, whereas the reality of the terms is just as worse as being to being labelled that of a ‘Prostitute’ or ‘Gigolo’, though both direct themselves to exactly the same vented factual statement: A person who is not morally obligated by his/her sexual values and/or integrity.

Later, we will be taking a more serious look at the implications and ‘Stereotypical’ labelling that puts a person’s integrity at an even greater risk than just willingly sleeping around, or losing their virginity for the sake of blending in with the wrong crowd of peers and friends.

1. Settling Into Sexual Awareness

Have you ever wondered why, after so many attempts of trying, you have failed to get the one girl (or boy) of your dreams? Have you ever wondered to yourself, if there was some ‘Manual’ out there that could help you get what you wanted…Or, at least that one thing that you needed to get you on the first run of the ladder of ‘Sexual Awareness’, then why haven’t you found it – or at least heard of it? Well, let’s start at the beginning…

In the autumn of 1981, the British Government began disassembling the ‘Sex Education Curriculum’ from all schools around England, Scotland, Wales and Ireland. This was the beginning of a huge ban on the awareness scheme that had acquired a lot of complaints from parents and guardians to the fact of unwanted ‘Teenage Births’ increasing across the country, for which the government hit back in the only way they could – by banning the awareness – but, of course, the numbers still went up. As those who are smart enough to know, you can ‘Ban’ the awareness, but you can never rid the ‘Idea’.

Within the chasms of these ‘Sex Education Classes’ you would find hundreds of books on the basic ‘Sexual Mechanics’ and ‘Guidelines’ which would not only teach you about ‘Safe Sex’, but also, how to ‘Structure’ your ‘Sexuality’  in the presentation stages: One example is the sayings of “First Base”, “Second Base”, “Third Base” and so on…And yet, this literature was gathered up and after twenty years of not seeing any light, it was destroyed. Fortunately, many of today’s parents, including myself, managed to witness these ‘Sex Education Classes’, and, oddly enough create what is before you. But beware, if it is pornography that you seek then this book is not the book for you.

Public Opinion

A survey conducted in Britain, Canada, and the United States by Angus Reid Public Opinion in November 2011 asked adult respondents to look back to the time when they were teenagers, and describe how useful several sources were in enabling them to learn more about sex. By far, the largest proportion of respondents in the three countries (74% in Canada, 67% in Britain and 63% in the United States) said that conversations with friends were “very useful” or “moderately useful.” The next reputable source was the media (television, books, movies, magazines), mentioned by three-in-five British (65%) and Canadians (62%) and more than half of Americans (54%) as useful.

There are some striking differences between the two other sources. While half of Canadians (54%) and Americans (52%) found their sex education courses at school to be useful, only 43% of British share the same view. And while more than half of Americans (57%) say conversations with family were useful, only 49% of Canadians and 35 per cent of British had the same experience. [From Wikipedia]

Now known as “Sex And Relationships Education” under the government’s turnaround on the issue, some Political Parties are demanding that “Sex Education” be reintroduced to lower-aged children, to guide them through the struggles and tribulations that they sometimes now face in a modern world.

First Kiss

Everyone (So it is believed) should remember their very first kiss, though statistically, the majority of “The Lucky” is in fact “Victims” of their own desires upon kissing for the very first time. For those who remember having no problems or catastrophes before, during or after their very first kiss, then ‘Lady Luck’ has really shone down upon you.

In hindsight, my personal experience brought a more memorable and thought-provoking moment to the fact that my entire body battled various strange (at first) feelings and sensations never experienced before; increased heart rate, clammy palms, nausea, stirring loins and stiffening penis – and that was before our lips even met. As noted I was a very naïve child, normal, but naïve to the great wonders that I was to face in the big wide world. So, not being prepared for my ‘First Kiss’, it has to be said that, once it was done my further encounters were considered better by practising and eventually mastering the technique.

The most important factors of a ‘First Kiss’ are points of evaluation:

• Location – Finding the right place at the right time is considered a fete in itself, while spur-of-the-moment ‘Hen Pecking’ wouldn’t be seen as wrong, the full-on ‘Passionate’ kiss could, especially in areas where factors find themselves ‘Inappropriate’ ruin that special moment.
• Audience – Not many of us appreciate “Watchers” or “Voyeurs” overseeing those intimate acts of ‘Sexual Release’ when we are older, and more to the point is the fact that the ‘First Kiss’ should be special and accomplished with no interruptions. Of course, the raised question of ‘Love at first sight’ plays upon an interesting point where instantaneous reactions cannot be controlled, therefore, all but the two people interlocking their lips are going to be completely oblivious to their surroundings. In other words, the world is most definitely their ‘Kissing Ground’.
• Pressure – The most common foe of any ‘Newbie’ to the symptoms and traits of longing for that ‘First Kiss’ is the overwhelming pre-concepts that cause more nerve-wracking pre-action accidents and dilemmas than any embarrassing occurrences afterwards. Certainly, the need to get this over and done with should not be laden with ‘Pressure’ into executing what should be both memorable and indeed pleasurable, too. The best advice here is, to wait until you are ready for the experience and not allow ‘Peer Pressure’ to force you into something that may dispel your grand illusions or come to affect you in later life.
• Composure– There have been many occasions when sleeping restfully on a two-foot-wide ledge six feet up in the air has been possible for my needs, though to cuddle up and have that very first kiss in the same instance is far from recommended. The whole working up to that special connection should be as comfortable as resting within each other’s arms beneath the Sun or stars with no foreign objects sticking or digging into you, or having you break off and adjust your position at that pivotal point of ‘Enhancing Stimulation’.
• Time – Experience tells me that the most important factor before, during and after ‘The First Kiss’ is that of ‘Time’. Memories serve instances where school friends were called, taken and even dragged away from that critical moment in which passionate lips met and the great anticipation of achievement thwarted. Half ‘First Kisses’ do not bode well on your “Passion Portfolio“, which is why the emphasis on ‘Time’ should be taken seriously and certainly not overlooked. There is also the ‘Lost Kiss’, too, which every person who has to endure this very disappointing occurrence, is still to this day kicking themselves for putting it off – or missing the whole experience for taking too long in plucking up the courage to see it through. Regret can be a damning thing – do what your heart says is right and do not miss the boat.
• Fluidity – Nature taking its course! To some, the work up to ‘The First Kiss’ is believed to be constructed in a similar manner as a Military Mission; Reconnaissance, Evaluate, Get In, Get Out – Job done. This is not the case, though overachievers will treat the act as something which is only done once. Fluidity or ‘Slow Progression’ is a major talent that should bring together all the above factors, and, without a doubt, the results can bring satisfaction from one of the most pleasurable moments in any human’s history. It is one of the pleasure-seeking acts in Human Nature, so why rush what is already a done deal? Of course, there is the case of the ‘Unplanned First Kiss’; as romantic as it may sound, it is the random meeting of the eyes that can instigate every accompanying component and ingredient listed above in which to initiate your very ‘First Kiss’. But whether you have appointed this very natural and unique experience with your first crush, or, it has presented itself to you in ways that you least expected it, embrace it with slow exploration and respect.

Bad For Good

The time we all spend during Primary School should be time enough for us to realize and understand what is ‘Wrong’ and what is ‘Right’, or so it leads us to believe, right? Well, believe it or not, through further research facts have emerged that ‘Preteen Years’ – 0 to 12 – allow children to gather enough information in which to ‘Mould’ themselves into the ‘Characteristically Adept People’  they become once they attend High School.  This includes ‘Skill Set’, ‘Attitude’, ‘Behaviour’, ‘Knowledge’ and the all-important building block that is ‘Awareness’.  National Statistics show that a large percentage of those children going onto High School from Primaries decrease their ‘Bad Behaviour’, while a small percentage of those showing gleaming reports enter a physical shift of ‘Bad Behaviour’.

What is sought in younger life compared to that of an adult is the necessity to overcome certain challenges that bestow both psychological and physical distress. While looking into the background of a Primary School Child who is non-coherent, or indeed ignorant to the fundamental difference that is between ‘Good’ and ‘Bad’, while continuing to follow ‘Bad Traits’ and ‘Habits’, there is that chance of the child becoming part of the initial ‘Shift’ once at High School. Leading by example is not always the best course of action, even if the child is ‘Forced’ into the belief that ‘Good Things’ will prevail.

Traits – A distinguishing characteristic or quality, especially of one’s personal nature: Good or Bad

• Attitude
• Behaviour
• Response
• Integrity
• Temperament
• Reaction
• Belief (Non-Religious)

The initial view of these ‘Traits’ allow us to evaluate an individual, not to judge or be decisive about their abilities in being categorized ‘Good’ or ‘Bad’; a child who misbehaves when they are faced with certain scenarios cannot be included in all the above, because the profile is unfounded in the fact that the behaviour is only present at random intervals where for others the problems continue to persist in an almost permanent nature of the occurrence. From this profile, which parents themselves can conduct too, you may discover that the child is locked within a single ‘Phasical Shift’, and only by changing their surroundings will it become possible to break away and re-adapt to the scenario.

Like many parents I have met admit that they were ‘Rebels’, ‘Scoundrels’, and even as colourful as to admit they were ‘Little Bastards’ while at school, it is safe to say that both ‘Primary School’ and ‘Middle School’ children weren’t and aren’t as bad as the latter statement suggests – inconvenient and embarrassing, but certainly not unforgivable. The sole purpose of raising this point, however, is not to place statistics in the way of ‘Sexual Awareness’, but to emphasize the state of flux which builds the picture up into an overall clarification: The Good Girl/Bad Girl and The Good Boy/Bad Boy Scenario of Choice.

School Relationships

It appears very adorable to many parents who have children attending schools having found a stable relationship with a boy/girl who shows both adoration and respect for one another, though contrary to popular belief, the actual realities of finding that of a “High School Sweetheart” – who go on to build a constructive life together – only exist for a minute percentage of the population. The whole reality of remaining with the one person you have spent the last days of school with while inside the small confines of teenagehood, where for many reasons there is no such presence as ‘Love’, just the day-to-day needs of attending classes, educating oneself and making it home for tea before sitting down to the habits of watching your favourite Soap Drama. Where on Earth would the balance between learning and living be, if the entire world population joined together with their ‘Perfect High School Girlfriend/Boyfriend’ and never moved on to meet and fall in love with anyone else?

Experience has expressed many systematic altercations in scenarios where the ‘Bestie’ has come to settle for the one girl they believe to be the ‘Bees Knees’, and deliberately rejected any further, and be it ‘On a Plate’ enriched offers of practically ‘Here I am, take me‘, to shock even the most worthy candidates who jump on the whole idea wholeheartedly. The question is: What would you do?

As a ‘Child’ or ‘Youth’, the easiest part of your life is ‘Falling in Love’; anyone can fall in love because the balance of both hormones and testosterone measures always finds a way to break down on one of the worst chemical levels imaginable. One minute you are sitting in a classroom reading soppy Romance Novels as part of your English Exam, and the next you are actually portraying a Romance story that has swept you so quickly off of your feet that you don’t know whether you’re coming or going! It’s far from basic, but, it is not so far from being one of the most common ‘Destructive’ and ‘Confusing’ factors of life too. And, for those who fight that ‘Calling’, what appears to be a greater deal actually turns out to become a ‘Bum Deal’.

Later, we will look at the ‘Advantages’ and ‘Disadvantages’ of embarking on the road which is rare and yet wonderful to some, but an assault course to others in the way of a ‘High School Sweetheart’.

Masturbation

Okay, I’m sure that I am not alone here when I say that we have all been told some rather wild and confusing facts about ‘Masturbation’ over the years, right; like the age-old famous one: “Too much will make you blind!”, or the fallacy “It’ll fall off!”. Well, clear your minds of all that decayed gibberish because that is all that it is – Gibberish.

The act of ‘Masturbation’ in many countries is considered to be one of the most natural acts of a Human Beings life, though in other parts of the world the act of ‘Masturbation’ is seen as a “Self-Abusive Sexual Act” that must not be tolerated. Of course, who am I to argue with any of the experts who have confused the matter by speaking out with Old Wives Tales and actually scare-mongering among the younger generations about something that is perfectly natural? Whether the terminology is ‘Masturbation’, ‘Wanking’, ‘Touching Yourself’, ‘Bashing The Bishop’ or ‘Getting Yourself Off’, the act in itself originates from a young age on a progressive scale; the obvious upscaling of this practice comes from ‘Youth’, as we have seen and witnessed ourselves when Mother’s shout at their child: “Do you need to go to the toilet! Then stop playing with your Willy!”

Admittedly, the sensual act of ‘Masturbation’ should be kept to a personal level, and in saying this it meant that the act should be kept behind closed doors – not in any Public Places. As many of the Romanticists know already, the Solo Technique is outdone by the Shared Technique; when in the ‘Bliss Zone’ of a relationship, the willing togetherness of two partners brings together heightened feelings and an integrated opportunity to explore one another’s sexuality. For the man, the woman can experience just as much pleasure from assisting the male organ to climax and release pressure built up from excitement as the woman can from the man.

Later we will explore the fundamental techniques and methods behind ‘Masturbation’ and its most intimate effects upon both the man and woman while sharing some other, less-known techniques and scenarios which could help reach our goal of this book – Succeed in ‘Sexual Healing’.

Homosexuality

Personally, the negative attitudes toward ‘Homosexuality’ have exhausted my attention span, and if the truth be known, this attention span on this particular subject was exhausted at age sixteen. In truth, the ‘Sexual Preference’ of a person should not be open to discussion or rejection by any other person. Homosexuality, for those who don’t know, is not a disease or condition that can be simply transferred from one human being to the other. And, as it has been accepted by a large majority of the population, we do not find any reason in which to discard it from this Guide. Later we will be discussing the ways and methods on how a person ‘Man’ or ‘Woman’ can overcome the barriers and taboo which affects the ability to share the acknowledgement of being ‘Homosexual’ without being painted, dubbed or ridiculed by those who are ‘Homophobic’. This will also include ‘Lesbianism’.

Getting Noticed

The one major obstacle that appears to be on someone’s list of ‘Top Priorities’ – especially when it concerns the ‘Boy’ or ‘Girl’ in school, is the somewhat distressing dilemma that goes critical when a ‘Boy’ or ‘Girl’ fails to notice they exist! This factual event, besides being totally untrue, is a one-point advisory that must be handled with extreme care and attention, or what will follow is the complete breakdown of communication between one of – Or both – involved.

We all appreciate and welcome being noticed – for all the right reasons, of course – by those who are standing around us. To be completely honest, the fact that we are being ‘Ignored’ is not good for the emotions or feelings that trigger within our bodies (Not to mention our Credibility when it happens around our friends). More so, when someone purposely goes out of their way and ignores us, we accelerate through the emotional response stage to that of ‘Anger’, ‘Dislike’, ‘Hate’, even to the point of ‘Irrational Behaviour’ where the anger exceeds into violent tendencies.

When we place ourselves in a classroom environment, what we see around us is a restricted space of crammed bodies, furniture, and obstacles that are hard to see through – unless we have the ability of X-Ray Vision. It is using this scenario that we look at the bodies, furniture, and objects that cause our ‘Blind Side’ to initiate the ability of ‘Being Noticed’. Beware, however, of the way in which you wish to be noticed.

You ‘Like’ a particular Girl/Boy at school who happens to be in your Class, and you want her/him to notice you so that you may begin a ‘Friendship’, or at the height of the ‘Like’ you wish to begin a relationship. It goes without saying that the first decision of your life is how you want to be portrayed to her/him; and in my own experience of ‘School’, the way that I was portrayed by everyone was that of a ‘Rebel’. And, at that time in that era, there weren’t that many girls who liked to be associated with ‘Rebels’ – at least not in my class anyway. More was a pity that the ‘Action Seekers’ resided in the Sixth Form, where the school bad boys were more of ‘Home Bad Boys’ who kept the action to the streets after school hours, and away from the knowledge of parents and teachers.

Below are some subtle examples for ‘Him’ and ‘Her’, and as such, they are Only Examples:

What ‘Girls/Women’ Want From ‘Boys/Men’

• Appearance – Dressing in the correct clothing which appeals to the Girl’s appetite will certainly obtain you the right attention (Unless School Uniform is compulsory).
• Smile – Smiles go a long way with the opposite sex, especially when others comment on frequently witnessed smiles that show you are a happy, fun person to be around.
• Attitude – Having the right (but not necessarily the correct ‘Politically Correct’) attitude could make or break the deal you have been waiting for; however, balance and effect enable the testing platform to be successful, or to fail. Alternatives vary, while you don’t want to be perfect, and to win it, and you don’t want to be too full on where disliking your manner sways the girl away from you, either. In other words – be yourself.
• Temperament – If you come over too aggressive, the chances are the image will stick in the girl’s mind that you may be too demanding, commandeering, or violent, so stay cool and don’t lose your head.
• Femininity – Believe it or not, many girls (and Women) prefer a person who can show their affectionate side; understanding how they feel when they are at points of ‘Loss’, ‘Sadness’, ‘Hurt’, or just at that moment when they need a shoulder to cry on.
• Trust – Showing someone that they can trust you, even before you ask them out is a big step and a huge plus on your part. Being a trustworthy candidate makes up forty per cent of the struggle when approaching a new relationship, so focus your attention on gaining this first. But remember, playing on ‘Trust’ to any point other than meaning it will eventually destroy everything that you have worked for – Respect it, and it will respect you.
• Reputation – Okay, so you have a record of having had lots of girlfriends in school, and the one thing that stands in your way is the dreaded ‘Reputation’ (Refer to ‘Male Slag’). It may come as a big shock to so many, but trying to beat this down by acting like a total dick and arguing the facts does not help. Time and paced progress may get you where you want to go if you prove the ‘Reputation’ as a phase you were going through.
• Association – Ever heard the expression: “Guilty by association?” This is the moment when you have to decide who and what is more important to you, and in this, we do mean those of your friends who are going to step into and between your relationship sooner or later and screw it all up. 9 out of 10 relationships end through disputes caused by friends, while 6 out of 10 ends through the girl/boy going off with the best friend.
• Devotion – Face it, if you really like the girl, then there is nothing that you wouldn’t do for her to make her happy, right? Two Key Stone factors are imperative during relationships that call on you to obey: Time and Effort. Without one, the other will collapse, and without both, you will find your girl moving onto someone else who will give her them. Of course, nobody should expect you to be around the girl twenty-four-seven – because that’s just being ‘Possessive’ and, or ‘Stalking’ – but worthwhile sacrifices that bring memorable moments into a relationship should be given without excuses.
• Being Faithful – Statistically, more than half of the relationships found in High School fail through the partner’s lack of ‘Being Faithful’ to the other (Sometimes both), while those that successfully make it through school and into adulthood double their rates by the age of 20. Leaving one-quarter of the original number to dwindle after the age of 20, it is possible that one-eighth can carry on to stay together to a ripe old age and this has actually been the case for millions of people the world over.

What ‘Boys/Men’ Want From ‘Girls/Women’

• Appearance – Dressing appropriately is always a huge plus between Male and Female candidates, no matter if you are fussy or not. Under-dressing can lead to ‘Labelling’ (Refer to ‘The Slut’), and yet, over-dressing can also lead to the very same ‘Label’, or even worse for to be referred to as ‘Frigid’, ‘Prudish’ or ‘Lesbianonic’. There are no specific rules or guidelines on what a woman should wear to attract all men, but, there are obvious signs and etiquette when it comes to an individual person, as there are various attitudes of women it is best assumed they have attire for any or all occasions.
• Smile – As with ‘For Her’, the Smile goes a long way, except for the fact that continuous and unbroken smiling habits can sometimes lead to downsides: Too much may frighten them off, and too little may signify you’re not all interested. Achieving what is often referred to as “The Glee Smile”, you’re radiant smile will have no problem getting the message across.
• Attitude – Your whole ‘Attitude’ should be telling people what you are about; both this and the way you Socialise, Make Friends, Communicate and Deliberate will have just as much an impact on a man as anyone else. Having changed over the last three decades, it has been documented that a ‘Girl/Woman’ with both an open mind and, be it a strong will to be in control of her own abilities, decisions and ideals have become an extra factor in a lot of men’s pursuits for a ‘Friendship’ and ‘Relationship’, too. However, the degree of this strength and be it ‘Demand’ from a ‘Girl/Woman’ has been of an average measure – those ‘Girls/Women’ who have come over too ‘Demanding’ or wanting too much ‘Power’ over the ‘Friendship’ or ‘Relationship’ have been seen to fail due to being labelled ‘Power Seekers’.
• Trust – Being able to be ‘Trusted’ by a Man is a big deal, especially when you are in High School. The ‘Reputable’ girl who has not been ‘Labelled’ will find favour and followers by the young men who know that she can be trusted within a relationship. Beware, however, just because you have not been ‘Labelled’ by anyone in school, does not mean that a ‘Label’ from your personal life cannot put a spanner in the works for you at school.
• Being Faithful – As ‘Trust’ suggests, the Key Stone factor here is that ‘Being Faithful’ to the one you are with is paramount over all the other examples. This is the deal clincher in so many ways, especially as through this one example, failure to uphold it can certainly bring all the others collapsing down around your head too.

The field of ‘Reality’ which accompanies these two sets of examples are the obvious ‘Alternatives’, which to the unsuspecting person makes all the difference to the whole practice in which they are trying to achieve; as there are always ‘Reactions’ to those of ‘Actions’, so too are there complete opposite consequences to the basic rules of ‘Getting Noticed’, as will be explained shortly.

Anatomy 101

(Fig.1 The Male Anatomy) [see the picture in the book]

The Male Body, as can be seen from the picture above, is simple to work out from first glance. In a naked posture, and showing the example on a 360-degree angle, the physique, width, and height are almost certainly average, if not common to that of a fully grown adult Man. The upper parts of the body are considered notably second place, while the Mid-to-Lower parts are most often than not recognized first. And, as there are no doubts as to the difference between a Man and Woman being the addition of a Penis, it leaves us to say that later, we will talk about other countries of the world regarding ‘Maturity’, ‘Sizes’, ‘Developments’ and, of how certainly by open discussions of ‘Sexual Awareness’ the rewards are envied by others.

Surprising Male Facts:

1. Humans have the largest penises out of all primates. In fact, the animal that you’d expect to have the largest, a gorilla, averages a 1.5-inch penis. You don’t want to be hung like a gorilla. So, how did humans come to possess such large sex organs? It could be a result of our upright progression. Our postures allow a multitude of sexual positions that cannot be performed without a large enough Willy.
2. Penis sizes vary across ethnicities, races, and regions, but condom sizes are standard. This increases the overall HIV risk of cultures with smaller or larger than average penises. A survey done a couple of years ago concluded that over 50% of Indian men have penises about an inch shorter than the international standard used to size condoms. A bad fit for a condom means that it is more likely to break during intercourse or that men will completely forgo using them out of frustration. This factoid shines a little light on societies with high rates of HIV, bringing another element of concern to the cause of safe sex. Before you can get people to wear condoms, you have to make sure they fit.
3. Humans might get “boners,” but we don’t have penis bones. Other mammals do, though. Chimpanzees, dogs, cats, bears, and whales all have penis bones. They’re there to facilitate quick mating, allowing the male to penetrate without an erection. Just insert tab A into slot B a few times and it’s done. We should be happy that we don’t have them because we like to have fun. However, the absence of a bone will not prevent the penis from actually breaking. That can certainly happen and it is most frequently reported in the instance of an overzealous woman on top suddenly putting her weight awkwardly down on a semi-hard-on. If this happens, get thee to a hospital.
4. ‘Blue Balls’ is caused by blood trapped in the pelvic region, unable to drain out. When a man becomes aroused, the veins in his pelvic region expand with the release of nitric oxide through the bloodstream. Conversely, the veins leading out of this region contract, trapping the blood inside. When orgasm occurs, everything gets relaxed to its normal state, but when the body doesn’t get what it is expecting, things can get painful. The blood becomes starved of oxygen, which is like early necrosis. Thankfully, the body doesn’t stay fooled for long and relaxes before things get out of hand.
5. Testicle size in relation to body size is directly correlated with the average promiscuity of the females of a species. The more promiscuous, the bigger the balls. Think of it this way: if you know there’s competition, you’re going to bring more soldiers to the battle. Larger testicles produce and store more sperm, allowing males to compete in an arms race of microscopic proportions. Chimpanzees are all about free love, and because of this have quite large testicles. Gorillas, meanwhile, are generally monogamous, experiencing very little sexual competition, thus they have very small testicles (That’s strike two for gorillas). Humans fall between these two species, as you might expect.
6. From the start, less than 15% of a man’s sperm is even healthy enough to reach an egg. Like an Ironman race, out of 150 million sperm released in the average ejaculation, only a small portion are even fit enough to cross the finish line. The rest are deformed, unable to swim, double-headed, sickly or even dead on arrival. This is just fine because only a perfectly healthy sperm is able to penetrate an egg. Actually, a man is quite lucky if even 15% of his sperm is healthy enough (Dr Harry Fisch, Columbia University Medical Centre), but there are ways to improve that…
7. Sperm from men who watch hardcore (man + woman) porn swim faster than sperm from men who watch lesbian porn. Sexual competition does more than recruit more swimmers, it strengthens them, too. (Leigh Simmons, 2005) Witnessing the act of copulation gets the competitive juices flowing, preparing sperm for a fight. The result is more, healthier and stronger sperm released with each ejaculation. Lesbian porn does not produce the same virtual environment because there are only women in view and the brain interprets that as “more for me!” Further evidence of this can be found in comparison with other primates, where Chimpanzee sperm swim significantly faster than (you guessed it) gorilla sperm.
8. Semen is designed to subdue a woman’s immune system so that it doesn’t attack the sperm. As sperm make their way from the testes, out through the urethra, they are combined with several fluids from different glands. These fluids do many things like neutralizing acidity or even energizing the sperm. The most interesting elements of semen are prostaglandins, which act like a Jedi security force, waving their hands and convincing the female’s immune defences not to destroy the hapless sperm. These are not the droids you are looking for.
9. Women can be allergic to semen. When informed of this, a friend of mine insisted that he personally test his wife for allergies as he rushed out the door. It’s true, though. There can be proteins in a man’s semen that set off allergic reactions, causing itching and burning. Fortunately, there is a way to reduce any allergies to semen that one might have. Through frequent and repeated exposure, a person can become desensitized and lead a normal life. Remember that allergies can relapse, so it is important to keep treating them. (Of course, if the allergic reaction is more serious than just itching and irritation, a doctor should be consulted.)
10. Pythagoras believed that semen was a “clot of the brain containing hot vapour.” No wonder we can be pretty stupid when we get turned on.
11. 2.5% of Italian military recruits have Micropenises.
12. In “stretched penis” measurement studies, Koreans get the short end of the stick.
13. 85% of women are satisfied with their partner’s size, but only 55% of men are satisfied with their own penis.
14. The clitoris is the only single-purpose organ in the entire body, out of both men and women. Its only purpose is to give a woman pleasure.
15. Women are more likely to experience discomfort during sex with a circumcised male than with an uncut partner.
16. There is conflicting research on the effect of circumcision on HIV contraction rates. This is mostly because research is non-standard, comparing men of different education levels and living standards.
17. Male honey bees mate only once in their lives. Their penises break off inside the young queen with the force of their ejaculation and they fall to the ground where they starve to death in a matter of hours. This all takes place in mid-air, by the way. The next male comes along, pulls out the last penis and blows his top soon after.

(Courtesy of Andrew Gonsalves)

(Fig.2 The Female Anatomy) [see this image in the book]

The Female Body, as of The Male body finds its very own unique awareness, both to itself, and to the ‘Opposite Sex’ (Notably, the same sex, too), where the Mid-to-Lower anatomy is noticed first (78% of men focus on a woman’s overall – initial- character first before moving onto one of two others; Legs or Face. It is the opinion of many professionals in their field of ‘Erotic Research’ or that of ‘Sexual Awareness Studies’, that the behavioural differences of both ‘Male’ and ‘Female’ counter-parts co-exist with ideas similar but definitely not different from one another.

Later we will be revealing both the Male and the Female ‘Top 10 Sex Appeal List’; want to know who looks at what, or who becomes tempted the most to dangle that carrot in front of the other more? In an unbiased and core featured survey of research, we look at who has the real crown that fits the head of the ‘Lusting Doppelgänger’, and finally reveal the ‘Taboo Observations’ from Man’s perspective as well as that of Women’s, too.

Surprising Female Facts:

1. The average age of puberty in females has dropped from 17 to 12 over the last 150 years and there are 3 correlated theories as to why. First, the increase in daily stress that modern society forces children to be aware of is linked to the onset of puberty (known as the psychosocial acceleration theory). Second, the increase in the frequency of girls who grow up around unrelated men (not their biological father or brother) influences the trend further (American Journal of Human Biology, 2006). Third, the problem of childhood obesity is a clear factor in the onset of puberty, with the amount of fat on a child’s hips signalling the reproductive system to kick into gear.
2. Humans are the only mammals whose breasts are prominent when they are not nursing. All other mammals’ breasts expand when they are nursing and contract when their young grow past that stage. The reason for this could be that we need that extra fat for emergency nutrition OR…
3. Human breasts may have developed to mimic buttocks. We know that the preferred mating style of most mammals is from behind, where the shape and colour of animal buttocks is a beacon of fertility, but as humans grew to walk upright, our mating style changed too. Thus, the female breasts mimic the shape of buttocks (a theory by Desmond Morris) as we perform coitus face to face. It’s no wonder we find both equally arousing.
4. A mother’s breast milk changes in composition to suit her infant’s age. The age-specific “formula” of breast milk helps the infant develop with the right nutrients needed at its stage of development. This is actually something that Swedish doctors know already, as breast milk banks in Sweden collect, categorize and distribute their milk by infant age. This makes you wish other countries would catch on to this trend as they did with Ikea.
5. There is a 5% chance for a human to be born with a 3rd nipple. They usually develop along the “milk line” which runs from the armpit, through the chest and down to the inner thigh, but they can occasionally pop up anywhere. Lily Allen has one. So does Mark Wahlberg. In the case an owner develops breast cancer it is most likely to occur around the 3rd nipple. (New England Journal of Medicine, 2005)
6. Women with a large size differential between breasts are more likely to develop breast cancer. “Asymmetrical breasts could prove to be reliable indicators of future breast disease in women and this factor should be considered in a woman’s risk profile.” (Breast Cancer Research, 2006) We humans are attracted to symmetry and health, so it is convenient that an off-balance pair of breasts might turn a man off.
7. Women with wide hips and thin waists are, in fact, more fertile. Their bodies contain 30% more of the hormone estradiol than average (Ellison & Lipson, 2004). Estradiol plays a huge part in the sexual development and functioning of a woman and 30% more means that a woman is about 3 times more likely to get pregnant.
8. Curvy mothers have smarter kids. With data from the National Centre for Health Statistics, two scientists discerned that women with a waist-to-hip ratio of 7 or 8-to-10 tend to have kids who score higher on intelligence tests. This is most likely due to the prevalence of fatty acids that help develop a fetus’ brain. (Lassek & Gaulin, 2007)
9. The occurrence of pubic lice (“crabs”) has reduced since the Brazilian wax became popularized. It makes a lot of sense, too. Just like deforestation kills animals that live in the woods… That isn’t to say we should all get “ripped” immediately. Pubic hair is very important for the emanation of your personal scent because it fosters the organisms that break down your sweat into an aroma. Pubic hair is also a natural signal for fertility. You know what they say: if there’s grass on the field, play ball.
10. In the 18th century, there was another term for vagina: “hey nonny-no.” Can’t wait to hear that one on the street.
11. Most girls do not actually ovulate until a year or two after their first period. Right now the common misconception is that once you start your periods, you’re fertile.
12. The protein responsible for signalling puberty in girls is called “kisspeptin,” named after Hershey Kisses.
13. The average breast size has increased from 34B to 36C over the last 10 years.
14. Males can lactate under extreme starvation.
15. Newborns can also lactate because their bodies are flooded with hormones passed on to them from their mothers.
16. Tampons were a hard sell in the 1920s until marketers developed a way for women to pay for them without talking to a clerk. Thus, it became one of the first self-service products in American retail history. (Heinrich & Batchelor, 2004)

Courtesy of Andrew Gonsalves

For Him

Real Bobby Dazzler

As a young Teenage Boy looking in the mirror, one of the well-known questions that you will ask yourself while standing there is: “How do I look?” And, in all sincerity, you will have the urge to say back to yourself: “I look fine”. Through four decades of observation and experience, I for one know that “Fine” is not as good as “Dazzling”, though not to put a curve of too much enthusiasm on this, there is a time and place to look “Dazzling” and another to just look “Fine”.

Below are a few suggestions of ‘Appearance’ (As we have already pointed out the ‘Traits’ for both ‘Boys/Men’ and ‘Girls/Women’, it is the overall ‘Appearance’ which gives you ‘Character’), but knowing when to become ‘Dressed for the part’ may determine whether you are ‘Over-Dressed’ – and, if it be the case that you are ‘Over-Dressed’ for a certain scenario, then factors which may not help your self-esteem could come into play.

There is nothing wrong with wearing ‘Casual Clothing’; Jeans, Slacks, Lounge Pants, T-Shirt, Jumper, Trainers or even a Shell Suit. Though it is practicality that tells us we are much more relaxed around the house and home in simple clothing such as Jeans and a T-Shirt, or Lounge Pants and a T-Shirt, and it is safe to assume that those around us, too, both consciously and subconsciously find no problem with that of our appearance. So, when we change the scenario to that of a ‘Visit’, ‘Function’ or ‘Appointment’, it should be as obvious as second nature to change into the correct attire for guests and visitors. Unless you are having a Pyjama Party or Sleepover (Slumber Party), then the outcome of this practice may actually save you the embarrassment.

Imagine the scenario where you are having a Birthday Celebration or Party. The Key Stone factors are simple to some, whereas to others, what we depict as appropriate is sometimes open to opinion. In the first instance, smart, casual or formal dressing is required: Running around naked, half-naked or wearing your Pyjamas is as funny a joke as going to a Theme Park in your Birthday Suit – Not Funny.

Casual Clothing:

• Short-Sleeve/Long-Sleeved T-Shirt/Shirt
• Jeans/Slacks
• Trainers/Boots/Deck Shoes
• Jumper/Cardigan

Smart Clothing:

• Short-Sleeve/Long-Sleeved Shirt
• Jumper/Sweater/Cardigan
• Trousers/Slacks/Black Jeans
• Shoes/Boots

Formal Clothes:

• Short-Sleeve/Long-Sleeved Shirt
• Tie/Cravat/Bow Tie/Scarf
• Suit Jacket/Crombie
• Trousers/Slacks
• Shoes/Boots

Considering the occasion of the scenario will often lead you to the right way in which to present yourself while keeping in mind common sense as to ask if you are not sure. There is no shame in enquiring among your Family or Friends about the forecast of the day’s events, which is a perk in itself for the simple reason of preparing early. The quest of this exercise is to be noticed in a pleasurable way, but not to steal the limelight, unless the event is for your benefit or it is your celebration. Experience shows that such events and celebrations bring both ‘Male’ and ‘Female’ Guests to the function, and as a young Teenager, that often means those who are of the same age as yourself, so, it is in your best interests to make the effort and pass with flying colours, too. One notable point on this subject that you should really take to heart, however, and that is ‘Do not copy’: Keep your own uniqueness, a quality that becomes noticed as well as your ability to shine.

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